For a Marriage to work, a bit of work?

For the most part it shouldn't take too much effort for a marriage to succeed. The main thing--and the hardest, quite possibly, is finding the right person first! And we will be writing about that!
If you already have found your match, then the other issues and relative interests often come quite naturally, if not with a little applying of yourself. A partner is someone to enjoy and share things with, and the idea is for life. If you have been lucky to find the right partner, than the idea of "in it for life", is a very easy and pleasurable concept to embrace!

Usually there are the time-old three ingredients to a good union, and they are more like eternal love mechanisms than anything "old"!

1. You have to be attracted to the person, as a person.

If you find you don't share too many common interests, or enjoy the pros ans well as the cons of a persons personality--to whatever degree, it might become more work than needs be. That, or else more of a challenge to get your partner to enjoy you and the things you do, and for you to enjoy who and what they are, and are into.

Every couple needs some differences in regards to each other, naturally, but if you share only very little in values and hobbies for example, then often you might feel a little alone. It happens.
And that can cause a problem. Marrying for sheer loneliness or sheer convenience is not the best route, not even close to it.
The famous quote is, "Love isn't just about staring at a person from across the table, it's also about staring with that person in the same direction." This couldn't be more true!
In short, you will be happiest (if you aren't already!) by sharing many things, for that is what a marriage is about.

2. Telling and Asking.

Not everyone is a psychic, and chances are for the most part, even if you are one, your partner likely will not be, or perhaps the other way around!
That means there are some things we take for granted.
If you find something particularly pretty or handsome about your partner on a given day, why not say it out loud? People love a bit of flattery, and both the sexes enjoy it very much when they hear from their beloved a little recognition. Go for it! Do it all the time. Words from your mouth cost little!
Also, in this regard, telling would have to do with speaking your mind about the things that bother you, however much without being a nag, so that if and when some issue does come about, you will know how to share your thoughts calmly and evenly. Keeping things inside never helps, and hurts both respective people, as is well known to all. If a certain thing occurs that bothers you, wait and see if it occurs again, and if so, that would be a good time to mention it, with care and tact.

As for asking, we don't do it enough! Asking for little things or big things is crucial in a healthy relationship. "Ask and you shall receive" Jesus said, and he could not have been more right.
We often wish for things, or would prefer a thing, but silence is only going to bring frustration, or a fantasy kept leashed. Need a back-scratch? You ask for one, yes? Same goes for anything. A healthy marriage keeps partners open and active for and to each other, and this produces the means for requests and pleasures!
Even the littlest intimacy (such as a quick massage) goes a long way and keeps a couple happy and prosperous in regards to each other. All in all, give and take has to be equal so that everyone is satisfied.


3. It's only natural to have physical attraction, so, are you attracted?

Beauty has many shapes and colors, not to doubt, but it is always important that you yourself find something (or many things) attractive about your partner. Does she have that smile that just sends you to heaven? Do his eyes make you swirl? Every single person has something attractive about them in the physical sense, and we all are turned on by different things.
This isn't to put it an the utmost priority, but what this all means is that if you are attracted to your partner on a day to day basis, you will automatically always have a healthy dosage of romantic feelings for your partner, (and that includes healthy sex of course). If you are aware of even the smallest things that make you attracted to your partner, it continues to make those wonderful and exciting differences. For a simple example, heck, even a pattern of small beauty marks on your partner's back can send joy to your eyes! Beauty can be found in all sorts of places! Constantly find ways to view things anew, and learn what else accentuates and stimulates! How well do you know your partner's body, for example?



More to come!